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Monday, January 13, 2014

Question for Bloggers

If you have recently had a death in your family are you having a hard time blogging?

Do you feel empty?

Do you feel you have nothing to write about?

Are you avoiding blogging because you don’t want to bring others down because you can’t think of anything to write about but how awful you feel?
My mother passed away in September from Alzheimer's. I spent the last year and a half being her 24/7 caregiver in her home in Illinois.

I seem to be in a fog.

The only writing I am able to do is journaling and trust me, you wouldn't want to see what is written there.
I could use some help in getting over this hump so any input would be appreciated.


Terri Tiffany said...

I am so sorry about your mom. Being a caretaker drains you. We are going through that now with parents. I went through a time when my husband lost his job it was hard to blog but I did...writing about my feelings. Surprisingly others related. I used my situation in a positive wary. You can too...just write about what you are feeling in your voice. Someone may need to hear you.

Anonymous said...

I'm not at all in your shoes, so I wouldn't think of trying to say that I know how you feel.
I hope you know how much you're loved and needed and how much your friendship is valued.
WE know you're not empty, no matter how empty you feel.
The fog burns off when the sun comes up.....
The sun comes up through our rejoicing.
So, the only advice I can share is to rejoice. Rejoice when you feel like it.... Rejoice when you don't feel like it.
I can't explain it, but it works like magic (not necessarily fast magic), but it will work what you're going through into something beautiful.
I love you, Diane. It's my great joy and honor to call you my friend. I treasure you.

Alice Hogan said...


It has been suggested to us that Mike write a book and he/we may about all the times that God has intervened on his behalf and our behalf. His book would mostly be the stories about his flying experiences, etc. where God blessed him.

We had a suggestion to start a blog and write about his current medical condition but since he still lives with constant and extreme pain, we find it difficult to write about his condition as that causes us to focus on his pain and we try to focus on other things to get our minds off of his condition. Maybe at some point we will get back to blogging but for now I just try to keep notes or a journal of his daily symptoms in case we have to give the notes to one of his doctors.

Alice Hogan said...


I have been keeping a journal mainly of Mike's symptoms but for us to share about his condition at this time has been too painful as he lives with extreme pain and periods of where he is paralyzed from the waist down. Yesterday in fact I had to call 911 and he was at the ER for four hours.

I don't know if we are going to continue to attempt to blog or just keep a journal.

smithsk said...

Condolences for your loss. You need time to mourn. In the old days, men wore black armbands, women black. It was acceptable and therapeutic and society supported those who lost someone.
Remember the Book of Ruth? - she wore widow's garments for some time. But the day came when she ditched her widow's weeds and married Boaz.
When the time is right, I am confident you will write ... even with greater depth and compassion.
Blessings ....